“Analyse Your Disappointments Long Enough To Dig Out The Wisdom Hidden Within”

Life is full of disappointments. Fashioned into the core existence of mankind are series of dissatisfactions caused by shattered expectations. Great plans have been thwarted. Hopes which once epitomised the future fulfilment of some have been frustrated by other humans who chose to look the other way.

Many have been disheartened by watching helplessly the love of their life walk away on them without any apology. Parents are disappointing their children, while children are also crushing their parents’ expectations. Political and religious leaders can disappoint us when they fail to meet our expectations or struggle to overcome a particular weakness or sin in their lives. Small or big, there is nobody on the planet that has never experienced series of disappointments.

Several cases of disappointing experiences are also recorded in the bible. We read about how God was disappointed with Adam and Eve for disregarding His instructions in the Garden of Eden. Likewise, Jesus was so disappointed with the city of Jerusalem that He cried out to them, “O Jerusalem, Jerusalem, you who kill the prophets and stone those sent to you, how often I have longed to gather your children together, as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings, but you were not willing! (Luke 13:34).”

Disappointment is inevitable in life. But the key to escape the heartbreak and torture of disappointment is having a right attitude. The difference in human emotions is attitude. Attitude is a mind-set that shapes our perceptions, judgement, reasoning and reactions to life circumstances. Your attitude is a direct interpretation of your life philosophy (your ingrained beliefs and principles). Therefore, in order to change how you see challenges, simply change your embedded life principles. For you to see life challenges as chances to change for the better, you must firstly replace your negative mind-set  with a positive (Godly) one (Ephesians 4:22-24; Romans 12:2)

Trapped in every disappointment is hidden wisdom. There are hidden treasures in every trial. But you will have to search for them. Take the time to scrutinise your experience and allow the Holy Spirit to put His peaceful words of wisdom in your heart. Let Him change your perception by renewing your mind-set by the mind-set of God which is His Word.

Every disappointment is an opportunity to move to a higher ground in life. Instead of seeing the disappointment you are currently going through as a breaker; begin to view it as a maker. Therefore, analyse your trial. Stay there long enough until its concealed wisdom emerges. Ask meaningful questions, such as:

  • Are there any obvious or hidden lessons I can learn from my disappointment?
  • Was there anything I did that contributed to me being disappointed?
  • Where did I put my trust – in man or God?
  • How can I mentally process and channel my disappointment to my advantage?
  • What would Godly people do who found themselves in my shoes?
  • Whose sound counsel should I pursue to eliminate my resentment? Whose advice can I access?
  • What are the potential consequences if I do not react positively to this challenge?
  • How can I overcome this challenge with limited consequences?
  • What can I do differently to avoid finding myself in a similar situation in the future?
  • God, is there anything you are telling me personally? Are you telling me something, God?

When you extract the wisdom in your disappointment, you succeed. Disappointments are opportunities for us to grow, correct our focus and trust God who never disappoints us. God allows us to experience disappointments in life so that we can enter into intimacy with Him. His heart’s desire is to see His children close to Him, trusting Him with all their hearts in every ramification. Sometimes, God chooses to allow us to experience disappointments to rescue us from going down a wrong path, or getting stuck with a wrong person, people or things.

While it is difficult to fully understand why you had to go through what you’ve been through in your life, what is certain is, God proves our trust for Him through the challenges that we face (Deuteronomy 8:2). For this reason, Job said, “But he knows the way that I take; when he has tested me, I will come forth as gold” (Job 23:10). God’s purpose for every disappointment in your life is to use it to increase you on every side for His glory.

Therefore, instead of advertising your disappointment, analyse it. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal its hidden wisdom to your heart. Then focus on God. Surrender your worries, pain and frustration to God in humility; He will turn your disappointments to divine appointments. God will use what the enemy meant for your downfall to lift you up unto your higher ground. Joseph was deeply disappointed with his brothers, but He put his trust in God and maintained a life of holiness. As a result, God focused to turn his trial to triumph.

Activate your faith and entre into God’s rest (Hebrews 4:11). Expect God to turn your disappointment around for your good.

We know that all things work together for the good of those who love God-those whom he has called according to his plan.” Roman 8:28

Stay blessed,





  • Tim

    Reply Reply October 19, 2012

    Thanks Wale. Very helpful

    • Wale

      Reply Reply October 19, 2012

      Hello Tim,
      Thank so much for your comment. I am delighted that you found this post very helpful.
      Stay blessed

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