“Friends Are Not Just Companions; They Are Agents For Your Success Or Failure”

When you select a companion, you select an agent for your success or failure. When you decide on a friend, you decide on being influenced by a future-shaping philosophy of another. We are all creatures of influence. We impact one another in varieties of ways, knowingly or unknowingly. Everyone brings with them a unique atmosphere which will either create comfort or discomfort in the present or future of others.

Whether we realise it or not, we are always being influenced by the people we interact with. But most importantly, we become more susceptible to the influence of those to whom we voluntarily surrendered our affections, such as our friends. Every human you open your heart towards make deposits into your life consistent with their inner persuasions and values. In other words, a bad person will deposit wrong things into you, while a good person makes deposits of right things into your life (Luke 6:45).

Every friend comes loaded with a peculiar belief system which has been set by their past experiences. Therefore you become the recipient of whatever benefits or baggage the friend you choose is carrying. Whether you want it or not, some of what they carry will somehow rub off on you. In one way or the other, you will take on-board some of your closest friends’ internal persuasions.

Why? This is because your subconscious mind automatically shares and adopts behavioural values from people to whom your heart warms towards. There is a constant exchange of behaviour- moulding data between the subconscious minds of two friends. Because most of these activities happen subconsciously, many have no idea that the people they hang out with are unconsciously influencing their behavioural configurations. Your subconscious mind will always work hard to make both the unconscious and conscious inputs of your close friends to become your own external behavioural outputs.

Now, besides the automatic exchange of behavioural data by the subconscious mind, another thing that influences us is the words of others. This is probably the most effective means by which we get influenced by our friends. Whatever you keep hearing, your subconscious mind will eventually believe it and takes it on as a valuable command.

If those you associate with continue to persuade you that taking drugs helps you manage your emotional problems a lot better, your subconscious mind will eventually internalise it as a valid statement, even though your conscious mind knows it is false. It is just a matter of time before you begin to exhibit those behaviours you once personally condemned. 1 Corinthians 15:33 confirms this; “Do not be deceived: “Bad company ruins good morals.”

“Be careful the environment you choose for it will shape you; be careful the friends you choose for you will become like them”, says W. Clement Stone.  This is a true statement. When you choose a friend you choose a voice. And the voice that remains consistent and dominant in your life is the voice that will shape your future. Persistent wrong voices in your life will birth failure, while persistent wright voices stimulate you into success. Every high achiever knows this secret. They understand the importance of quality friendships.

The difference between success and failure is often your association. Your association determines your destination. If you desire to do great things in your life, why flock with friends who have no sense of direction in life? Failure becomes inevitable when someone who wants to arrive at his desired destination gets stuck with those who have no plans of going anywhere, let alone arriving.

If you want to be significant in life, you must choose your friends prudently. Select your friends based on your goals. Let your life PURPOSE decides your companions. Associate with those in whose presence your self-esteem grows. Walk with the people that unlock energy, productivity and creativity in you.

Pay attention to God’s warning in Proverbs 13:20 that says, “Whoever walks with wise people will be wise, but whoever associates with fools will suffer.” The quality of your friends determines the quality of your future.

Refuse to allow your temporary feelings of loneliness or insecurity lure you into the traps of unhelpful relationships. Learn from Samson. He indulged in an unwholesome friendship with Delilah and suffered the consequences of an unfulfilled future.

Therefore, when choosing your friends; choose carefully, purposefully and scripturally. Its end result of significance and fulfilment will be worth it.




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