Love Is Held Captive To Your Mind Until Your Heart Gets Involved

Love remains futile unless it collaborates with one’s heart. Your heart is the inseparable combination of your thoughts, your will, and your affection. The heart is the controller and regulator of one’s entire life (Proverbs 4:23).

We all know that human blood cannot function without the participation of the biological heart. In the same manner, love cannot operate without the involvement of the psychological heart. Love is basically redundant unless it enters into an agreement with the heart. What authenticates love is the heart. Your love is always wherever your heart is. When you find what you really love, there also is your heart.

We were created to function by love. Love is in our DNA, having being made after the likeness of God who is love Himself (1 John 4:16). But we can easily reduce love to a captive of the mind, if we only imagine it or say it without getting our heart involved in the process.  The heart of man is the source and life of love.

Obviously, there is more to love than sweet words of affections, especially in relationships. Real love is always proven by selfless actions originated from the heart. Your love for someone is revealed much more in what you do from the heart than in what you say from your mind.

Therefore, in order for others to establish the authenticity of your love for them, your words and your heart must be in synch with each other.  What you say must agree with what your heart says within you. Authenticity is when your external dialogue is the exact interpretation of the internal dialogue of your heart.

The bible instructs us not to love with words or tongue but with actions and in truth (1 John 3:18). Words can be fabricated from the mind, but most actions are direct interpretations and reactions of the heart. This is why God weighs our hearts continuously (Proverbs 17:3). He knows if our love is not the produce of our hearts, then our love is infertile. Whether it is your love for God or for your spouse, until your heart is involved, your love remains inactive or redundant.

Your feelings and emotions are not you. That is why you can be happy right and be depressed in an hour later. Feelings are temporary. They are subject to change. That is why many marriages never survive, because they are built on feelings, and not on personal commitment from the heart. When both parties in a relationship no longer feel the way they used to feel about each other during courtship, they decide to file for divorce, thinking they have fallen out of love.

Real love is not emotions or feelings. Rather, real love is a choice. Authentic love is a decision. Genuine love is a decision of commitment, made from the heart. It is not constructed on the satisfaction derived from another person, but purely on devotion. The bible says that”…God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us” (Romans 5:8). God loves us in spite of our inadequacies. He simply chose to do so, based on principles of commitment.

If you base your love-life on feelings or satisfied expectations, you will always be subject to frustration, stress, disappointment and dissatisfaction. In the midst of life challenges, feelings can fade and expectations shattered. But the only thing that keeps you in the relationship is your commitment to each other. But if commitment of the heart is lacking, such relationship will not be able to withstand the storms of life.

Never allow your love for God or man to stand on the fragile foundation of feelings, emotions or what you can get from the relationship. Rather, let it stand on the firm foundation of commitment that springs out from the heart. Commitment is a solid principle of the heart; whereas feelings are delicate and mutable reactions of the mind.

Therefore, get your heart involved in your love-relationships. Choose commitment. Love always flourishes in the atmosphere of a committed heart. Be truthful to your heart. The manifestation of your true heart will permanently liberate your true love from the captivity of your mind into the liberty of a blossoming relationship.

Bless You,




  • Tim

    Reply Reply November 29, 2012

    Spot on Wale. Many thanks


    • Wale

      Reply Reply November 30, 2012

      Thanks Tim.
      Stay Blessed,

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